We would all looking forward to Husband going to work, at
least I know I would. That way they would keep the arguments on text and via
the phone as opposed to almost beating each other up, which was much much
scarier. One afternoon, while home, he was asleep. Cindy thought it would be
the perfect time for her to go through his texts on the Verizon website. She
was still trying to find proof that he indeed paid the ex girlfriend for the
ear rings. I remember going downstairs to find her engrossed on the computer
screen. She told me what she was up to. I had my laptop with me, I was was job
hunting and looking for a car online, so I thought I’d do that while chilling
with her downstairs. Cindy couldn’t find the texts on the site, so she sought
help from the Instant Chat Help service on the website. They were messaging
back and forth when suddenly, the person on the other site logged off. I hardly
sat down, Cindy was like, OMG, get up! WHAT? I think he’s up! He’s talking on
the phone, get up! Leave the room, go go go! Errrrrrr... I didn’t waste
anytime, confused as I was, I got up and walked back upstairs. He was on the
phone upstairs explaining to someone how nobody else should have access to the
account. He is loud, when he does something, anything, he likes for everybody
around to know about it. Apparently, he was told at church not to show off when
he prays. Cindy says they stopped asking him to pray. That bad!
I was in the bedroom trying to figure out what had just
happened. Turns out, Verizon called Husband. The account is under his name.
Everything is under his name. I wish women would learn to have a thing or two
under their names too in a marriage, relationship or just in general. If you’re
paying for some of the bills, why are they not on your name? Should push come to shove, you will never be
able to prove you were the one paying for those bills if they were not under
your name. Being in a committed relationship is cute and all but don’t let that
mess with your logic! When I overheard Husband talking to someone about the
account, it was with Verizon, he didn’t want Cindy having access to the account
they are both paying for. None of my business. You could see the fear in
Cindy’s eyes when she heard his voice. He went back to sleep. More tension was
brewing in the house. You know they fought about that later on via text. He
slept in lil one’s room, she, in the main bedroom. It had been that way since I
moved in. Again, none of my business. I did hear husband say something along
the lines of, Cindy didn’t do any of those things until I moved in. I must be
one who influenced her. She doesn’t know the first thing about computers, I
must have taught her how to manoeuvre it. I hate to burst your bubble boo, but
not guilty! Not this time around! He once told me that when they first got
married, he would leave for work and leave Cindy at home with lil one. Cindy
wouldn’t move an inch, he would return after three days to find her right at
home, where he left her. Later on, Cindy told me, she would leave the car in
the garage, cos she know he marked where he left it, walk out the front door,
take the bus and go to the casino, almost an hour away to have a good time! Or to
the mall, or wherever and pretend she never left. So him assuming that I am an
influence to his wife, please!
He left for work that night, he was usually gone for two to
three nights. Cindy works 12 hour shifts, 6am-6pm a few days a week, alternate
weekends off. The kid was with grandma most of the time, she was taking care of
her. She turned 4 while I was there. The kid, not grandma haha J. That was another
issue. Husband wanted lil one to start school. Cindy, wait for it..... kept
forgetting to enquire about that! I just love how forgetful Cindy is. She
forgets the very things regular people don’t forget. She needs to forget stuff
like, whether or not her husband paid that woman for the ear rings, or pay that
woman her money herself and then forget that she did, and move on. Just saying!
Needless to say, the kid was still playing with grandma, born in America,
talking with an African accent because she only hung around grandma who is
African and us at home, all Africans. It was interesting to watch.
By the way, Word just crashed, I lost this document for a
split second and was freaking out cos that would mean retyping everything, not
a big fan of reruns! Thank goodness for Autorecovery!
Husband would come to me and be like, what do you think about
Lil one not going to school at her age? She needs to learn to socialise with
kids her age etc, he made valid points but my hands were tied. Cindy’s solution
would be something along the lines of, or maybe you (me) can drop the kid off
and pick her up from school. Uhm, what happens when I get a job? You need to
discuss your stuff with your husband and come up with a solution together that
doesn’t include a random person who is crashing in your spare bedroom looking
for a job, dying to get the heck out of your unbelievably clean house! Come on
now, even you can do better than that!
Husband got back home, he leaves for work at night, tenish,
and comes home in the mornings. He got home, I heard them exchange words, then
the argument became more and more heated. I was just like, you know what! Can’t
deal! I was in my room, wishing I had an exit door straight from my room to the
outside world. No such luck, Brook. Be grateful for a roof over your head.
Which I was. Cindy was bathing the lil one when husband got home. She went back
to the bathroom, husband was downstairs in the kitchen, they were still
arguing! Words were flying from one room, through the staircase, to the next.
Goodness me! On my way to get some drinking water (American think, they don’t
just say water, they be like drinking water) in the kitchen, Cindy said
something to me in Xhosa. I wish people would stop that, it’s uncomfortable!
When there is someone around who doesn’t speak the language, let’s all
communicate in a language we all understand! No matter, how ‘broken’ you think
your English is, they will appreciate it. It’s common courtesy. I got to the
kitchen, husband was like, what did my wife just say to you? I was like, you
want me to tell YOU what she said to ME? He was like, yes, what did she just say? I
told him, that’s between she and I. Or you can go ask her what she said. He
went, I WANT YOU OUT OF MY HOUSE NOW! GET OUT OF MY HOUSE!