Friday, January 29, 2016

In Other News

After accidentally spending the night at Calvin's from out kayaking date, he called in to work the following day and told them he wasn't going to make it. He wanted to spend a little more time with me. I thought that was sweet. We were famished because we didn't even have dinner the previous night. It was around 6am when we wanted to go out for breakfast and everywhere was still closed, except good ole Mc Donald's. I was like, whatever you do, do not take me to Mc Donald's, that's not cute! We found a Mexican spot that was open and had pig skin burritos. They were very filling. Both of us couldn't finish them.

I left around noon. I didn't want to overstay my welcome. I drove home thinking, did I just go on three very successful dates with the same person? Yay, me!

A few more things that happened around that time in my life:
- I found a sh*t load of Law Of Attraction videos on YouTube and plaid them to death. They're awesome! They put me in high spirits! I read a wad of books. I haven't stopped reading since I started towards the end of 2014 in Vegas.
- I was booked (background work) in Whittier.
Whittier Country Club. Gorgeous! 

 Kind of a drive from where I live, fortunately, I found someone on Facebook whose daughter was booked for the same gig. They live 2miles (3.2km) from my house, so we carpooled. We used their car, less gas.She's a nice 18 year old girl who says she's shy and quiet but we talked about all kinds of things on our one hour drive to set. She's a cool kid. I always get along with kids, all ages, from infant to infinity. It's fun!
Might as well pose!

The shoot was ok, there were a lot of people, they fed us lunch at the end of the day, more than 7 hours later. At least, they paid us meal penalty to make up for that.
Cameraman, Brook haha

- I worked on a set in North Hollywood, on a plane with dummies that look like plane crash victims that were not found for years.
That's me...and them

 It was eerie.
Here they are again

 That was a nice gig, I was booked for two days. I could use more of that!
They booked me off my headshot and asked me to wear the outfit I had on in the headshot. Fortunately, I still have it. This was me on set.

- I worked around Hollywood and had a nice time, meeting new people, catching up with old folks I've worked with before.
- My three month popsugar subscription expired. I must have only used three things from all three of the boxes I got from them. I'm glad I didn't pay for those three months.
- My beloved Vogue sunglasses I got from my Vegas landlord broke, I still mourn their loss.
That's me with them on outside the Kardasian store Dash
Outside Lisa Vanderpump of the Real housewives of Beverly hills restaurant SUR,also featured on Vanderpump rules
- I subsequently got a pair from popsugar, one of the few things I found to be useful, I wore those everyday, for about three days, they broke on around the third day. So much for that!
Before these newbies broke, they have a nice matte finish frame. On my way to set in Hollywood
- Two or so, more of my sunglasses broke. I wear sunglasses almost all the time, so.
Just left The Doctors taping in Paramount Studios - Hollywood. New sunnies
- I bought a nice pair of Rocawear sunglasses, they were really fancy! The kind that looks like a mirror. They broke at the end of week one. I paid more for those sunglasses than all the shades I have. Oh well!
New Rocawear Shades, on the way to set in Hollywood

- I went to American idol, randomly, got lucky to find the last free parking spot near the Kodak theatre. the odds are incredible! I knew that the episode was going to be a concert, but then aren't all episodes of Idol? Turned out, it was going to be a real concert! JLo performed! PitBull Performed! Ricky Freaking Martin performed a mashup of all his hits, #treat ! And most of all, Chris Brown performed!
American Idol Wrist Band
Not that you didn't already know this but Chris Brown is an amazing dancer and JLo has a great body. That was my second or third time seeing JLo.

- My kitchen sink got blocked. I think it was the food dispenser. Time for a repacement! 
Leaking food dispenser



I tried to fixed the clogged sink myself while waiting for management to send plumber

As you can imagine, that wasn't a nice smelling situation. I am capable of taking care of most things around the house, so I had to try. I wasn't going to wait forever whose house is not smelling, or is, to come and take care of it.

I managed to get rid of the smelliness. I took the food dispenser apart and put it back up
Unfortunately, all my work didn't fix the sink. The plumber came over in about three days of reporting the issue. He fixed it in no time flat!

- This happened!

Leaking tap / faucet
I had to send for a plumber for that as well. They took care of it much faster than the drain. They just replaced the leaking one with a new one.

- As I was taking care of my Beverly hills apartment's renovations, clearly! I was also taking care of my condo in South Africa. I was waking up at odd hours of the morning to catch people while they were still up and in the office, or whatever the case may be. A log of work was done in my condo last year!

- I drove around the neighborhood for the heck of it.
 
On my way home from set. Wilshire Boulevard. 

I will definitely miss this neighborhood when I no longer live here. It sure is beautiful!

Beverly hills library. I think the city hall is behind me


Next door. I want this car! Navy Porsche Carrera Cabriolet. 

- One day something said to open the cupboard above the fridge in the kitchen, so I did and guess what I found?

Great Find!

Remember the prophet I told you about that I met doing background for Pharrell Williams' Music video for Freedom in this blog?

The prophet and I

I had my black lipstick on for that shoot.

Black Lipstick

We did a church scene where we sang along and did what you do when the spirit moves you. We had to look like we were sweaty, so...
Fake sweat. Real on my face and the rest is fake

-I drank a lot of smoothies, made with all kinds of concoctions.

Chocolate shake and pear

Strawberry, banana and yogurt

- I went to the talk a couple of times or so. It was ok.
At CBS in Studio City. The Talk
It's always nice to see celebs you never dreamt of seeing. One of the days at  The Talk, I saw Lisa Kudrow, Phoebe from friends. She's so beautiful and so slim. 

Last Comic Standing's Tony Baker and I at the Improv comdey club that day!

Sunday, January 24, 2016

Kayaking

The weekend came and it was time to go on my third date with Calvin.


Calvin found out from a conversation we had that I ha never been kayaking. He took it upon himself to take me. It's one of his hobbies, he even owns a kayak that he got on one of his vacations in Hawaii. He told me that he was going to use his kayak and was going to rent one for me. I had done my own research on kayaking and knew by then that we could get a two person one. I would've felt much safer that way considering I can't swim. Plus, I thought that would be romantic. I pitched that idea and he liked it. He hadn't thought about it. See, Cal! You need me!


I was to meet up with Calvin at his. He was going to drive us to Sunset beach. I was looking forward to it for more reasons than one: I'd always wanted to go to Sunset Beach because I followed the soap opera, Sunset Beach. Have you? I still remember Meg and her eyebrows and the hot Ben and his evil twin.


I arrived at Calvin's nice and early. He made us breakfast on the barbecue. We had talked about prickly pear before. I am from a part of Uitenhage fondly called eTolofiyeni (prickly pear in Xhosa - my mother tongue), named after all the prickly pear that grows naturally in that area. Calvin being the plant doctor that he is, he knows all the trees in the world. He  made us nopales, I didn't even know you can eat that! I only know it of it's medicinal purposes, it's an anti-inflammatory, you warm it up over some fire or the stove, wrap it up on a thin cloth or napkin and put it on the swollen area. These are the 'leaves' of the prickly pear tree, not the fruits themselves. When they are completely dry, off season, they are great to start a fire. They are nice and light and airy. That's the farm girl in me, not the Beverly Hills side. Never forget your roots! No pun intended. I enjoyed the cactus, it has a very different taste. I can't compare to anything I ate before.  I sent pictures to my cooking sister, she asked for the recipe. She wants to try it too, because, like me, she didn't know you could cook it.


After breakfast, we headed out to The OC. That's where the beach we were going to kayak in is. I was anxious. I really cannot swim. Now, I'm gonna have to ride it out in the middle of the ocean. Is this a good idea? Fck yeah!  Why not?


We went and rented safety vest and a kayak. Calvin bought himself a new vest to replace his. Apparently he lent it to someone who never returned it. Poor blue eyed, Cal! We took off our shoes and got on the boat. Oh Lord, have mercy! This is it, Brookie, do or die! We kayaked in the Huntington harbor. It's nice and quiet over there, just kayakers like us! I was excited to be, once again, doing something I had never done before. And to be with this guy that I was getting more and more fond of my the minute! It was a good day.


Calvin taught me how to paddle, I did ok. We then did it together, I did one side, while he did the other, like one was doing left, the other was dong right. It was fun. I felt like I was on one of those cool The Bachelor dates. Only, I already got the rose on a previous on-on-one haha. Yeah, I just quoted reality TV.


We kayaked deeper and deeper into the see. We passed one or two bridges over us. It was cute. Kinda like being in Venice under that romantic bridge. I still need to go there, by the way. Have you been?


After a nice round of kayaking, before we went too deep, I was ready to turn back. While on our way to, Calvin took over the paddling and paddles so fast, the boat was rocking so hard! I was so scared. I was that person screaming so loud, when everyone was having a chill time. It would have been embarrassing if I embarrassed easily, but I don't, so all good! I did freak the freak out though. I was certain, I was about to drown!


After the kayaking experience, check! we returned the kayak and my safety vest and headed to the reggae place. It's a nice restaurant not too far from where we were. We found a nice parking spot, saw a clothing rack outside a store, went to check it out. They had a 50% off sale on some of their items. Calvin told me to pick something I wanted. I didn't want anything, plus they had nothing in my size. I told him that I would have loved a sarong if they had one, but they didn't. We saw a nice, vintage Lincoln parked close by. Calvin's first car was a Lincoln, he still speaks fondly of it, so he posed for pictures on the random one we saw in the parking lot. Nice shots with a couple of palm trees in the background. I made one of them black and white. It looked even cooler. I later sent it to him.


We walked into the restaurant. It was packed. It's really cool inside, it has fish ponds, if I remember well, they have fake plants around the fish pond, it looks very like you're on vacation somewhere, so, of course, we posed for pictures in front of all that. I was wearing this house dress, that I had taken along with me to get comfortable in after out date at Cal's. It was turned out to be too hot for the outfit I had on, so I immediately changed as soon as I got to Cal's. That's what I ended up having on all day. We had drinks in the restaurant, by the bar. My gosh, it was so packed! I had virgin Pina Colada, Calvin had something exotic, he always does. He knew I don't drink, so he took a sip in my drink to check if there was no alcohol before he passed it on to me. I thought that was so sweet. The drink was delicious!


After that, we went towards the side where they play live music. We had to pay to go in there. We arrived just as the band was setting up. Apparently, the band is from the same town Bob Marley is from in Jamaica. Do that info what you will! I have heard that when some South Africans come to The US, they claim to be related to Nelson Mandela, so hey. I had ribs for lunch. So, so good! They were falling off the bones. We were the first ones in that side of the restaurant. It got packed in no time there too! In about an hour, the band finally started to play! Just as they did, Calvin grabbed my hand and took me to the dance floor. I loved how he didn't even give me time to think about it! We danced and dance and danced. We danced to about three songs, none stop. It was a great! A lot of the people were on the dance floor, there were a lot of interesting dance moves, but who's to judge? all clean fun!


We stayed for about an hour after the band started playing, most of which was us waiting for the waitress to bring the check (bill). We, or should  I say, Calvin paid and we headed back to LA. It was a day well spent.


We arrived at his place. I was already comfortable in my house dress.


Calvin's friends came by. They went straight to the backyard. He has a nice situation in the back, big park table with attached benches, they all sit there and chill. I laid in bed and told Cal to go enjoy his friends and wake me up at a certain hour. He would keep coming in to check on me every 20 minutes. That was sweet. I would sometimes pass out and feel a kiss on my forehead while I was in lala land.


That evening, he came to lie in bed next to me. I was gonna get up later and drive home. I don't know what happened but I woke up from a deep sleep at midnight with Calvin passed out next to me. I went, 'Oh my Gosh!' He woke up and said, "Oh my gosh!" I told him it was midnight. I couldn't even ask him why he didn't wake me up, he was out as well. He told me not to drive home at midnight but to spend the night. We got under the blanket and went to sleep. Like two babies.



















Saturday, January 23, 2016

Sleeping With The Enemy

Life's good, I've been to two successful dates with a guy I adore, I have someone helping me with rent, who's never home, I'm getting jobs here and there. What more could a girl ask for?
Working as a Librarian in a shoot in UCLA. Nice and short shoot



Playing a passenger, Ontario Airport


My sister made me these earrings. Check out her food blog here


Brian, my airBnB was still here, why not? He's never here and he pays me a chunk of money for it! He always booked for a night, two or three, maximum at a time, which ended up being way more than I would have made if someone had paid once off for staying the entire month. I wasn't complaining. It's my job as a business person to inform you beforehand what I charge and yours as the customer to take advantage of that. He didn't, I smiled all the way to the bank. Brian's dad was paying for his rent, that's probably why he didn't care. After Ramadan, the alarm stopped going off at 4am, which was a blessing for me. It was such a blessing, I felt like I was entering my own Ramadan!
Photoshoot for headshots at Carly's when I stayed there. Carly took the pictures

Making love to the camera ;)

One day, Carly and I were chatting on email, because I didn't give her my new number in efforts of trying to cut all ties. When she couldn't get hold of me on my old number, she started emailing me. I emailed back, I was in high spirits, I was excited about Calvin. We talked, she told me about her problems, sought advice, I advised her, you know the drill! Then she asked me what's new on my side. I told her about Calvin and I. I told her that the conversation was so organic from day one, nothing forced, blah blah blah. I told her about the first date. She wanted to know what he looks like. If he has blue eyes, what about long hair, etc. I must say, it was good to see she had been listening all this time. She told me that it's time she found herself a boo. She didn't want to be left behind. Fair enough!
More goofing around

Heeeeyyyy!


One Saturday, I got an email from Carly, she was going to be in my neck of the woods. She wanted to know if I wanted to go along shopping. I was working, so I couldn't. I was like, you don't even need more clothes, what are you doing? She told me that she was bored, she had been making lots of money, left, right and centre, might as well spend it. She also told me that maybe, if she bought first date outfits, someone would take her out. I couldn't argue with that. I guess she was practicing that Law of attraction stuff I always do.

Setting the table for two and trusting that the universe would send me someone to 'fill the void' which it did!

Speaking of setting tables, remember Jen? The lady who stayed here for a week? Very healthy, right?



Spring cleaning the couch after Jen moved out. Gotta get that smell out!

Day after I turned Carly down from the shopping trip, she sent me an email about a guy who was staying at hers through AirBnB. She told me that the guy was just her type, so hot! He turned her on, 'OMG, I just wanna jump him'. She was into him! She thought that he may have been interested too because since he moved in, he had been buying her dinner and not wanting her to pay her back. I told her that that could mean he's interested in her that way, or that he is polite and generous. The only way to know for sure if he's interested, was to see if he would ask her out after he moved out. She told me that she had a good feeling about him. I was like, hey, what do I know about relationships. Do your thing, boo! Just don't be disappointed if you don't hear back from him.

Carly had had a guy contact her before that one. The previous guy wanted to stay there for a few days while they were fixing up his place. Carly looked up the guy on Facebook, she added him. they got acquainted over on FB and before you know it, he invited her over. This was before the guy moved in with Carly. Carly accepted and drove over to the guy's then place. It was just the two of them in this big house, I don't know who owned it. They ended up in the backyard by the pool. The guy wanted Carly to strip and get into the pool. She wasn't feeling that. At some point, he tried to kiss her and she turned him down. I was like, why would you turn him down? Clearly you were interested in him if you're gonna go to his place and hang out with him in your very first meeting! Anyway, the following day, the guy posted pictures of himself with another girl. Carly took it personally. She told me she thought that that guy was trying to make her jealous. The guy ended up being a no show. He had already paid for the few nights he was going to stay at Carly's. Carly took the money. 

She went ahead and told the new guy that story. I was like, dude! What are you doing? Are you trying to have a bad reputation? The new guy will think that that's what you do: hook up with guests! She told me that the had tons of conversations, he wouldn't think that, she trusted him. He wasn't judging her. I was like, ok! 

As we were chatting back and forth about how amazing that guy was and how turned on she was blah blah blah. I asked her to send me a picture of the guy. I was curious,. She replied, 'OMG, Brook! I can't! The guy is right here! I'm lying on his chest as we speak!' I was flabbergasted! Why would you have such conversations about a guy while lying on his chest? Do you really believe he can't see on your phone? Come on! Apparently, they were watching a movie, on the guy's bed, the bed the previous roommate was sleeping on. She left all her furniture for Calry, when she moved in with her boyfriend. I couldn't help but wonder how the guy must have felt with his landlord taking over his bed. I know from experience that Carly was always on my couch, when I was renting her couch. She would lie there, or sit with me and work on her computer etc. I told you this. I couldn't help but think that this was all her idea. The guy probably just wanted to go to sleep but this horny woman would not leave her alone. 

Nothing happened between the two of them. The guy was going to move into an apartment not far from Carly's but when he moved out, he first went to Palm Springs to a party. 

One afternoon, I went to Walmart, downtown LA. It was really close to Carly's. I told Carly I was in the neighborhood. She came by to meet me. She was gushing over the guy who had stayed at her place. She told me how excited she was that she found the one. Don't I think it's amazing that we both found our true loves around the same time. I had always wondered when she was busy telling me the stories about these men she was throwing herself at at the same time that I told her about Calvin, if she wasn't doing that thing that she does of competing with me. Love is not one of those things you can compete about because it's not entirely up to you. The other person has to be into you, if he's not, it's over. Otherwise you are going to find yourself in a very sticky situation. No pun intended. 

When she told me that about us finding out men at the same time, I told her to call me after her first date with the guy. She seemed to be disappointed that I didn't have faith in her new blossoming relationship. I told her that they didn't meet on a dating site where everyone was looking for love, the guy was merely looking for a place to crash at night. I wanted to see if he was gong to call her now that he was no longer staying there, now that he no longer needed to kiss her ass.  She told me that they spoke since he moved out, I asked who initiated the conversation, she told me she couldn't remember. I was like, chile, please! 

She told me she was tempted to call him and ask him to hang out or to see his new place or offer to help him move. I was like, girl! This is not even you! Inasmuch as Carly is as clingy as she is to me, she is not that way to men at all. Instead, she is the opposite, she will turn down the hottest guys. That's why I was suspicious when she started acting the way she was after I told her about Calvin. 

After a week of not hearing from the guy, Carly got depressed, she would message me and ask me why it is  that the ones you love the most would always break your heart blah blah blah. I told her to stop flirting with her guests. 

Not long after that, Carly and her friends planned a trip to Palm Springs but Carly told them she would rather go to Malibu. This was just after I went to Malibu on the 4th of July. 

Calvin wanted to take me to a live reggae place the following weekend. I was looking forward to that.

Thursday, January 21, 2016

Orange County Fair

Day after the first date, I was on that phone telling everyone about it! About the date, about Calvin, the works! I had been dying to do so for weeks anyways! The entire week, I was reveling in the it all!

I felt like it had all come to that one moment, when we finally laid eyes on each other. All the bad dates, all the ridiculous relationshits, all the online dating profiles, all of it! The fake it till you make its of sending myself emails, texts, imagining being with my man at home, making drinks for two when he wasn't even around to drink the second cup until one night, I looked around my house and there were two empty cups where someone actually drank from the second cup. It was marvelous! I didn't wash the cups that night, I wanted to wake up to the reminder that my man was here the previous night. He left half his water in a water bottle he had brought with him. I tell ya, I kept that for weeks to come! I finished the water and recycled that bottle until I couldn't use it anymore. It was something Calvin had left at my place. It was a sign that he was here. That he exists now. It was awesome!

We continued to talk and text daily. I could feel our connection getting stronger by the day. My sisters were so pleased for me when I told them about him. When I came back from San Francisco, I had to get a new phone. I did so on the very day I got back, they asked if I wanted a new number or to keep the old one. I had intended to keep the old one but the lady told me it was going to take a while to port it, she told me I could do that at home as well. I was like, ok, give me a new one and I will port at home later. Just as I walked out of the store, I thought to myself, this is the perfect time to get rid of people I no longer want in my life, change numbers and don't give the new one to anyone other than family at home. Calvin was the first person in The States I gave my new number. Maybe my friend from New Jersey as well. A lot of  my friends are friends with me on Facebook as well, so we just chat there, no big deal.

I got a good deal on a decent phone, it as on sale and I got further discount because another store had offered me 20% off or something. It was great! Unfortunately, I didn't stay with my service provider so the month free they offered me went in vain. I was no longer using that phone. I had linked my phone to my computer, so the month they paid for kinda helped in that texts were still coming through to the computer, so I was able to see if I wanted to give those people my new number or not. I love having my phone linked to my computer for texts, there's an app that you download on the phone and the phone or tablet. As long as your phone is on, the texts also come through to the pc. Sometimes your phone is charging in another room or in your bag or you don't know where it is but it's on, you can always reply to the texts on the screen. Sometimes, you phone is on silent, it's not where you can see it and a call comes through while you're either reading on the tablet, in my case, or doing whatever on the pc, you can see the call coming in, and just find the phone and take care of it I like it. I have had that app since Vegas. You link the phone using your email address not your phone number, I think when you change numbers, and reply to someone who texted you to the old number, and reply, they automatically get the text from the new number. Watch out for that if you don't want that person to have your new number. Let me know if you want the details of the app. I am not trying to do free promos on my blog!

Calvin asked to see me again the following weekend. He wanted to take me to the Fair in Orange county. I thought that was so romantic, no one has ever taken me to the fair before. I had actually never been to a fair, I've been to a carnival many a times in Uitenhage. Aren't they the same thing?

I got my nails right and got ready to head out to Calvin's. He asked me to leave his car at his place, he was going to drive us to the fair.  I had to think a little bit about that. I also didn't want to be difficult, he told me that the place was closer to his house than mine. I think it's the same distance but I just went with it. He told me he wanted me to see where he lives.

Getting my nails ready for my date. I don't know what I was watching on the tablet lol

I was kinda nervous. I washed my car the night before and parked it in the street. I park under a tree that used to poop on my car at my place. I didn't want all my work to be in vein, that's why I parked in the street. The following day, I got up, Calvin called, we chatted for a split second, I got ready and headed out. Calvin wanted us to leave around noon for the fair. The fair is an hour's drive from his place, I still had to get to his and have breakfast with him. He told me he was going to prepare something for us.

I was listening to nice music on my iPod in my clean car. It was hot as heck out, I had my windows and sunroof open, it was a good morning! As I got further and further away from familiar territory, it was sinking in that I was going to Calvin's house. I was going to see everything that he had told me about the place. One afternoon, he called me as I was about to check out a new Dollar Tree. We usually talked in the morning and evenings, he would text me throughout the day but would only call those times. It was nice getting a call from him when I least expected it. He told me that he was home already. We literally talked about nothing. I remember mentioning that most Americans are renting storage, I asked if he has one and proceeded to tell him that if he does, he needs to get rid of whatever is in it. He told me he doesn't, he has a shed in the backyard. I asked if the shed is packed to the brim, he told me that it wasn't. I asked what he keeps in there, he was like funny you should ask, I am in the backyard as we speak! He went into the shed and went through the stuff that's in there. I liked that he wasn't too cool to do that. Someone else would have been. I think. He has some cool stuff in there, bicycles, a kayak, surfing board, skim boards, cool stuff like that.

As I was getting closer to Calvin's the buildings got shorter and shorter. We're not in Beverly Hills anymore, I had just passed downtown. They have more houses than apartments over there. In '0.2miles, turn right, then keep left', said the voice on my GPS. 'Turn left. Turn right and your destination will be on your right.' Oh my goodness! I'm here! There were two cars in the parking lot. One of them the car, Cal came to see me in and the other one is his cool 1960's truck that he had done up. I was really there! A dude came out from behind the cars, towards the house. He was putting on his shirt, he said hi and walked right past me. Double You Tee Eff? I called and told Calvin I was there. I had a beige top on, pleather leggings on and was carrying a red handbag. Calvin came out in khaki cargo shorts and a red top. Basically, we were matching. It was awesome!

He gave me a hug, a kiss and carried my handbag for me as I got out of the car. I felt so welcome!

Calvin asked if  I was hungry. He made bacon and eggs for me. We went around the house, he showed me his trees and stuff. The mangoes were ripe and smelt amazingly! I saw his collection of bonsais. Everything checked out! He was the person he said he was on the dating site and over the course of out chat-ation. We finally went inside, shoes off, first! The house was spic and span! The tiles looked brand new! The house is cosey and romantic. I sat at the table. It's a small table with two chairs, that was cute! There was one plate with bacon and eggs. I wondered why he ate without me and dug in regardless. That's when I realised that he didn't eat without me, those two eggs and three or so bacon strips were for us both. Oops. I was almost done with the bacon! I felt so embarrassed and apologised profusely. He told me not to worry about it. We were going to eat where we were going anyways.

I had mentioned that I needed a massage in passing. I forgot all about that, probably because I must've gotten the massage from my chair but Calvin didn't. He quickly gave me a massage at his place before we left. I thought to myself, smooth! Very smooth. But it ended there! In fact, my leggings, kinda dropped as I bent over in front of the bed for the massage, I was like, oops, can you pull them up haha. Which he did, without being creepy about it. After the massage, we got into Calvin's car and headed for the OC. I hadn't been to Orange County since 2012 December. Calvin had thought of everything. He remembered that I love Elvis Presley, so he had Elvis' CD in the car for me to indulge. I loved that!

We stopped halfway for water, I mean, it's not even that far, but it was fun. It felt like a real road trip. I love road trips! Cal asked if I needed anything from the gas station. I didn't. We continued on our merry way until we arrived at the fair. My gosh! There were so many people! It was so big! Much, much bigger than I had ever expected! On our way to the fair, we passed The happiest place on earth; Disneyland. Calvin asked if I had been there, he told me that he considered to take me there instead on the date. He told me that the fair was only going to last for a short time, he could always take me to Disney at a later stage. I was excited that he had future plans for me. I felt like I had a boyfriend. It was a wonderful feeling.

Orange County Fair. I need to try those frog legs advertised on that banner

We parked our car, I took out my cute polka dot umbrella with a pink handle and we went to get ourselves tickets. We got in, took a few pictures and walked around. There was a lot of walking around involved. I am glad I had comfortable shoes on. We stopped for something to eat. I had a piece of pork. I thought it would come with a side or something. Nope! It came on a stick, that's it! It would have been more scrumptious if it weren't so dry. Calvin had a meal, it was a bun with beans and pulled pork. I had some of his food. It was good.

Pork Chop on a stick

I saw people eating the biggest turkey drumstick I had ever seen and wanted some with my eyes but there was no room in my stomach. Calvin told me that he would buy me that in September during the LA County fair. This was in July! I thought to myself, great! I will still have a boyfriend in three month's time! I'm loving this!

We held hands, it felt so natural, so amazing, so everything. I was into it!

Calvin got us tickets to the rides. I was praying not to be that embarrassing person who throws up on a ride. The first ride was ok, very high,  but not fast or anything crazy. I had been on that kind of a ride in Port Elizabeth forever ago. I can't remember if we did go on the second one.

Not too long after the rides, we checked out the animals. I hadn't seen those animals in a while, goats etc. They also had a lima. I had only seen one at The Talk,  in person.
Testing my new lipsticks, pink and orange

We looked around for our car.Calvin and I gave each other turns carrying my handbag. Not that it was heavy, it was hot out. Nobody wanted to be bothered with a handbag. I remember him saying, while we were trying to find the car in the parking, omg! Please take your umbrella back, there is nothing manly about this look! He was carrying my handbag on one arm and the pink handled umbrella with his other hand. It was hilarious.
I  sent Calvin this , when he saw me for the fair, he told me thought I was gonna wear this orange lipstick


I really enjoyed out second date. Cal wanted to go to the beach afterwards. Newport beach was not far from where we were. I wished we could go because that's where some of the Real Housewives of OC live, e.g. Heather. I was too tired and too hot to care. I asked him to take us back to LA. He obliged. He was like, 'wanna go back home and watch a movie?' Yup! We made it back to his safely, rented a movie just around the corner from his. I took off my shoes, changed into a dress and made myself comfortable. We rented James Brown's movie: Get on up. I passed out before, during and after. I couldn't stay up for sht. It was a complete catastrophe! I was pooped.

At the fair

I don't know what happened to the movie, but I woke up later, we chatted some, then went out for dinner in the neighborhood. We went to a Vietnamese restaurant. I had something delicious, Calvin had noodles. My meal had pork in it. Again! He took me back to his, I got into my car and drove back to the Hills of Beverly!

Vietnamese dinner
We had breakfast, lunch and dinner together. My kind of date. The date of my fantasies. It was a good day!
















Thursday, January 14, 2016

The Greatest Story Ever Told

I'm back! I quickly had to go to the Bill Maher show. It was so funny! I also made friends with a very musical guy who takes demo tapes and turn those songs into sheet music for people who can't write sheet music. Very impressive, if you ask me! After all that musical talk, I am now listening to Frederic Chopin as I type this.

Time seemed to drag as I was waiting for Calvin considering I am not one to wait, usually, I am ready just in time, never a moment too soon! Apparently, Calvin couldn't find the flowers somewhere, so he had to go home and this and that and the other. I was just like, omg, get here already! By the way, he had sent me a picture of himself looking like a Sotho guy the day before out date. He was outside his truck, writing a receipt for a client or something. He had what looked like a Sotho hat on. I was like, this guy! While we were at it, I asked him to send me a picture of himself where he didn't have sunglasses. I wanted to see his eyes. He took a picture of just the face, the eyes were so pretty. I wanted to lick them.
My mini photo shoot before Calvin arrived

As I was taking photos, there are lots of them, but  I won't bore you. I thought to myself that I will show him on our one year anniversary. I am not one to think that far when it comes to relationships on account of my past but I was really positive about this one! That and the fact that I am changing the way I think about things period! Calvin finally arrived! When He called and told me he was outside, I almost farted my insides out. The excitement was too much! I have never felt that way before. OK, maybe once! I was so excited, I had a pep in my step. It was a good day! This person could turn out to be the love of my life. The one! I thought as I went outside to meet him. He saw me and walked towards me, before I saw him. He had a hat on, He was tall, he was not Mexican, he had beautiful blue eyes, our eyes locked for the first time and I felt at home! I felt like I found someone that I can trust, someone I want to be there for, to protect from the outside world. I felt like that was the person I had been trying to get to all my life. It was great! I had never felt that way before meeting someone. Something about his soul. Deep inside, not just the blueness of his eyes, which I have never made no secret that I love. It was more than that. More!

We hugged, he had a vase with flowers in it. He had already told me that he was going to need it back because it belonged to his late grandmother. It was the only thing he had of the grandmother. I liked that he was sentimental. The reason the flowers were in that vase was because when he couldn't find the calla lilies, he went to his house and picked me flowers from his own home. That meant even more to me than any flowers he could have bought. He had also brought me a lei (as in Hawaiian lei?). He told me that as he was driving back home, he asked his brother to make him a lei.. His family lives quite close. I loved it! That was a special touch. I had never been leid before haha and I hadn't been laid in a while either, so it was about time! The smell of those lei flowers, my gosh! Best smell in a flower I have ever smelt! I am obsessed with frangipani flower, look it up if you didn't know of it and do yourself a favor! You're welcome :)
The lay and behind me the flower Calvin brought me. 

I I invited him in while I put the flowers in my own vase, etc. I never do that! I walked in first and, as you know, my house is a shoes home, his is too, by the way! How awesome is that! He already knew he was going to have to take the shoes off if he were ever to come into my home, so that wasn't a shocker. As I was busy trying to unzip my shoes, I tried not to have him stand behind me because the dress was rather short, he might have seen things nobody was ready to see, so I faced him. But, as you can see in the above picture, my cup overfloweth, so he was going to see way too much if I had bent over facing him too. While in the midst of that dilemma, he went, 'I got it!' HE TOOK OFF MY SHOES! I mean! Come on! How amazing is this guy? As I saw him on his knees in front of me, my mind went to how that was what it was going to be like when he goes down on his knee in front of me in the future. It was so symbolic to me! I was so charmed by his chivalry. I really was! That was a first for me!

We sat and talked a little bit. He complemented me on my cute place. We had talked so much about so much that he already had an idea of what my place would look like. When he saw the massage chair, he was like, 'you never told me about this!' I smiled and told him I wanted to surprise him. When I heard of the kind of work he does, I knew he was going to love me when he found out I have a massage chair. I still didn't tell him I'm a massage therapist as well. It's only a first date, you know? Plus, remember the last guy I talked to about massages on a first date? If not, here's a reminder! I offered Calvin something to drink, we sat and talked for about 30 minutes before I said, do you wanna go? He went, 'thank you! I'm hungry!' haha. We walked to the car, he opened the door for me, I hopped on. We talked some more as we headed to Santa Monica. Remember how he had offered to take me to the beach on our first date? Well, he remembered. We went to a German Sausage type place. Service is really good, the guy was so sweet. Calvin ordered some Filipino type and one Italian, it sounded like he was ordering prostitutes in a brothel. I asked if they had anything out of the ordinary. They told me they have Rattle snake and rabbit sausage. Remember the conversation  Calvin and I once had about eating rattle snakes? Click on conversation, it will take you to that blog if you wish. I decided it was then or never, so I went for it! I'll have that one please! Thanks! You're welcome! coming right up!

And right up, it came! 
I was so excited! I was about to eat something I never even thought it was going to be possible to get a chance to eat! Snake! I had eaten rabbits growing up in the farm. We used to hunt for them, barbecue them and dig in. That was forever ago. I had almost forgotten about all that until I met this guy. He was pleasantly surprised that I was that brave. He told me  he was impressed, he never dated someone that brave before. Well, mutha fcker, you better buckle the phuck up then! I am into all things different!

I enjoyed my snake, I got to taste some of Calvin's as well. Everything was good! I really enjoyed the date. I didn't want it to end.
The rock came off, so I wore the ring without. 

After the date, Calvin drove us back to my place. He looked like he was gonna dump me outside the building and leave. I asked if that was the plan, he was wishy washy with the response,because, you know, you don't know why someone is asking! I invited him over. He found a spot to park around the block form my place. As we were walking to my place, he told me that he was so surprised when he received the text about how that first date could be the beginning of the greatest story ever told. He said that, he was contemplating sending me a text to that effect but he didn't want to scare me away. I told him I wish he had. I asked what he wanted to text me, he told me it was something along the lines of, 'this could be the first brick to the foundation of our relationship'. I thought that was sweet. He said, he didn't want to send me that and have me thinking, 'this guy! We haven't even met and he's already thinking about cementing walls haha! I'm glad I didn't overthink mine because he loved it.

We chatted some more over a nightcap. I found out that Calvin used to be a graffiti artist. I asked him to write me something. 

Calvin's art in my gratitude journal.I'm definitely grateful for that!


I was so impressed with that! He seemed to have more and more layers, the more I got to know him. That fascinated me! He told me that he has a friend who is a great tattoo artist, apparently Calvin once took the needle and tattooed SGV (San Gabriel Valley), his hood, on his lower belly without ink. Apparently it healed fully. He still showed me where he did it. I got so excited seeing a little more of his flash. Not too long after, he had to head home. I walked him to his car. 

By the way, since Calvin and I started talking, I had these feelings that were overwhelming, before I said anything stupid to a stranger, I opted to write him letters that I will never mail. I call them Letters to Calvin, they are my dear Calvins. I wrote him a short one the morning of our date, in it I wrote, I wonder if we will kiss today.

I gave him a hug and he grabbed me and planted a huge one in my lips. It was nice and long and good! While we were kissing, I remember taking in the moment, thinking to myself, this is me and he is here, we are making out in the middle of Beverly Hills, the moon is shining bright. It's a good day!

After he left, he texted me, Wow! Your kiss! I feel so rejuvenated! It's stronger than a RedBull!